Being in a healthy and happy relationship can have huge benefits to your overall wellbeing. But did you know that getting physical can help to improve your relationship, too?
That’s right: we’re talking about sex – and while it may not be the most important part of your whole relationship, it can help to improve various aspects of it, from communication to emotional intimacy. What’s more, it can also improve your self-confidence, reduce stress and boost your immunity!
Whether you’ve been in a relationship for 10 weeks, 10 months or 10 years, we can all experience issues with our sex life, whether big or small. But if you value this part of your relationship as a way of connecting with your partner, it’s important to understand how to create a safe space to improve your sex life, your relationship and your overall wellbeing. We spoke to the team at EasyToys to find out their tips for doing just that.
Communication is key
If you and your partner find it difficult to talk about sex, you’re not alone. In fact, a study by Durex in 2019 revealed that even couples who have sex regularly don’t openly discuss the subject with their partners, with one-third admitting they feel uncomfortable in doing so.
However, many people feel that sex is an important part of their relationship, as it provides an opportunity to bond, show your partner love and affection, and make you feel secure. So speaking up about your feelings in the bedroom and working together to find solutions may actually help to improve communication in your relationship overall, while improving your physical and emotional bond as a couple. So what steps can you take to be more open with your partner?
Be honest: When you want to spice things up in the bedroom, perhaps by using intimacy tools or trying different positions, you should feel comfortable in discussing these things. You may think that you’re sparing your partner’s feelings by faking an orgasm or not talking about issues, but you may actually be negatively impacting your relationship. Being honest about your feelings in bed may also open up lines of communication in your general relationship, too.
Find the right time: When it comes to any discussion with your partner, it’s important to avoid bringing up issues when you’re angry, or you or your partner is in a rush. Instead, find time to sit and talk in a neutral setting that’s free from distractions, giving you both the opportunity to express your feelings and listen to each other.
Be more intimate
Intimacy isn’t just about having sex; in fact, as humans, many of us simply desire physical and emotional contact. Even non-sexual forms of physical intimacy, including stroking your partner’s hair, holding hands, giving each other massages, cuddling or kissing can make you feel more connected as a couple. By being more intimate with each other on a daily basis, you’ll start to notice that your sex will improve as well. Just a simple kiss or cuddle when you see each other can benefit you both, as it shows you care about each other, can instantly decrease your stress levels, and improve your mood.
Using sex toys
Having an orgasm isn’t as easy as it may seem; many women can’t have orgasms while having sex, while others may never experience an orgasm at all. While some women may not feel it’s necessary, for others, this may have a negative effect on your sex life and overall relationship. What’s more, your partner may feel the pressure to perform and feel less confident as a result. Using sex toys can be a helpful way of allowing you both to enjoy the experience.
While sex is a normal part of most relationships, creating an open and safe space for and your partner can greatly improve your overall relationship and wellbeing.
