Emma explains why self-compassion is key when it comes to caring for others
When I did my TedX talk back in 2016 I never dreamed how significant the content would become. How living in a fear-based (barren) world would become more true and how being able to access fertile abundance would be more vital than ever for our mental health and wellbeing.
During this past year I have watched the world become a more anxious, fear-driven place. My message has always been rooted in a desire to give people the tools to cultivate a sense of safety; to feel at home in a world full of uncertainty; to build a safe home within ourselves. But at the same time as we are being exposed to increased fear, we are also witnessing selfless acts of compassion.
We have watched in awe as our keyworkers have carried on regardless during the peak of Coronavirus, despite the danger posed to themselves. Let’s hope we continue to appreciate these heroes rather than the plethora of influencers and other false gods who seem to be valued merely for their ability to sell us things we don’t need.
Compassion and kindness must surely become the new cool, rather than narcissism and self-interest. These are the values on which we must build our new world. A more beautiful and compassionate world our hearts know is possible.
Now more than ever, self-compassion is paramount. But how do we know when we are being compassionate enough with ourselves? For me, it is through noticing how compassionate I am towards others. If I catch myself judging, being critical or snappy with others I know now that this is normall a reflection of my own inner state. So I pay attention to my own needs and give myself plenty of compassion.
If I find that I am reacting to the same things over and over (sound familiar?), and blaming forces outside of myself. I get curious about the origins of these irritations. We only react to ammunition that is already inside us.
So next time you feel you are judging, criticising or reacting, notice the feelings in your body. Come out of the mind and the stories we create, and come into the feelings. Then give your feelings plenty of compassion.
It is only through self-compassion that we can extend compassion to others. You cannot give from an empty cup. If you wish to see more compassion in the world then learn to give compassion to yourself first and foremost.
Tips for Self Compassion
1. Give yourself time to rest; invest in self-care
2. Spend at least 30 minutes per day on something that makes your heart sing
3. Notice your reactions to people. What triggers an emotional response or sensation in the body. Get curious about its origins
4. Nourish yourself well
5. Be discerning about who and what you expose yourself to.
Emma Cannon is an integrated women’s health expert, registered acupuncturist and author. Check out more of Emma’s fantastic work at emmacannon.co.uk
