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Love Dilemma: How do I escape my relationship?

Dominic Knight explains how to put your happiness first and get the most out of your love life

Lots of women stay in relationships due to guilt, a sense of duty and a fear of the unknown. How do you make the decision to leave?
Firstly determine if the idea of finding someone new is based on a true desire or just a fantasy. Then ask yourself: “is life better off as a result of the relationship I am currently in?” Also, try to be humble enough to evaluate if your partners life is better off as a result of you. If either answer is a no then it’s time to move on.

Are you in a relationship due to a fear of being alone? If you are just settling for someone who doesn’t really do it for you, you could get a temporary sense of security but ultimately this is very unhealthy for both parties and will end in heartache. There will undoubtedly be an initial sense of loss and that’s what keeps most people clinging on because they are trying to avoid that initial discomfort. But ask yourself the question: “What price will I pay if I continue to drag out this relationship?”

Are you staying in your relationship due to guilt or a sense of duty? If so, you may end up with a build-up of resentment towards your partner, this ends up increasing until any infatuation you once had is broken, which is the way we end up falling out of love.

Put your happiness first, get over the fear of doing it on your own and have the courage to move on. A relationship will not make you happy, nothing outside of yourself will, the happier you become in your own space and with who you are the more desirable you become anyway. If you are already happy and you meet someone your wellbeing will amplify, if you are miserable looking for happiness inside of a relationship you will be once again setting yourself up for disappointment.

When you truly love someone, dynamic changes occur all around you. First of all you stop focusing on yourself. When you’re in love it feels timeless. You find you need nothing else because you’re getting exactly what you need. The other thing that happens is that you bring out the best part of who you are. Life is no longer about who you and that’s when you experience your greatest joy. From this place it’s important to remain consistent and learn everything that you need to learn about your partner and yourself. We tend to make relationships too complex, over complicating situations, thinking; will this work out or will it end in heartache? Empower yourself and recognise it will be whatever you make it!

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Dominic Knight

Human Behaviour Specialist

Dominic Knight is a human behaviour specialist based in London’s Harley Street. For more information about his life transforming methods download a free chapter of Dominic’s book Pushing to The...

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Dominic Knight

Human Behaviour Specialist

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