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Spirituality: Subconscious tricks to a happier Christmas

One thing the subconscious loves is to keep us stuck in a cycle of negative patterning, the hurt/happiness conundrum as I label it in my book The Weigh Forward.

One thing the subconscious loves is to keep us stuck in a cycle of negative patterning, the hurt/happiness conundrum as I label it in my book The Weigh Forward.

So with the festive season looming our propensity for searching for happiness through the usual suspects of food, drink, relationships, other narcotics, and partying (along with the seasonal suspects of present buying, Christmas nostalgia and friend and family reunions) the subconscious is in its element surfacing counterfeit emotions of negativity.
These (possibly) pleasurable activities throw up the self administering hurts: punishing ourselves for over spending, having recriminating thoughts and feelings for over indulging, and triggering negative emotions of our past by being back in close proximity with family and old friends.
Using the zen saying ‘simplicity from complexity,’ It is worth having fun monitoring your thoughts and feelings over the festive season to be able to recognise which activities or which circumstances are followed shortly after by negative feelings and emotions.
So, for simplicity, if you are going to over indulge be clear that you are choosing to do so, and in doing so love yourself for it. If you are spending money also make sure you are not spending to try and elicit approval or love off family and friends. They love you regardless; it just may be the child in you trying to buy the need to be needed. Finally pre-empt a family argument by recognising the habits of when they have happened before, how they get triggered and why, and then be prepared to not respond to old counterfeit emotions when the family arguments kick off.

If you work on this over Christmas, I’ll give you some sneaky subconscious tips in my next blog for handling the new year!

Article by

Jules Williams

Intuitive Counsellor

is a world-renowned intuitive counsellor.

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Article by

Jules Williams

Intuitive Counsellor

is a world-renowned intuitive counsellor.

Discover more